Sometime ago, I made a decision that resulted in some friends being quite critical of my actions, and, strange as it may seem, I love them all the more. Here are some reasons why:
1. Good friendships are strong enough to endure differences. How much better to be able you talk about our different opinions than to hide them away for fear of upsetting each other. It makes for more authentic relationships and ones that we can truly trust.
2. The fact is we ARE all different. How dull life would be if we were all the same and could offer nothing more than agreement? How many ideas would never have got off the ground? How may good inventions would never become great?
“It is, after all, the dab of grit that seeps into an oyster’s shell that makes the pearl…” Stephen King
3. Criticism keeps me ‘awake’ to what’s important. It makes me stop and think, rather than sleepwalking into something that I haven’t fully thought through.
4. I have a choice about how I respond to others’ criticism. It is THEIR opinion and they are as entitled to it as I am to mine. Whether or not it upsets me is down to me. In just the same way, I can decide if a compliment is going to make my day.
I once asked a friend if my butt looked big in the dress I was wearing. He said, “YES – and it looks gorgeous.” you decide which bit if that statement to take to heart!